The cycle of violence to which a woman is exposed when she has a relationship and a disagreement or an argument happens, is made up by three stages: tension, explosion and the so-called honey moon.
To avoid being victims of physical, psychological or sexual aggressions, women must recognize the stages of violence to which they are exposed in a sentimental relationship, stated in the Autonomous University of the State of Mexico (by its spanish abbreviation UAEM), Hilda Mónica Hernández Valdez, member of the National Commission to Prevent an Eradicate Voiolence Against Women (by its spanish abbreviation CONAVIM).
During the International Seminar “Gender violence: an obstacle to equality”, the specialist explained that the cycle of violence to which a woman is exposed when she has a relationship and a disagreement or an argument happens, is made up by three stages: tension, explosion and the so-called honey moon.
Before university students she detailed that, when there is a disagreement or an argument, the first stage that happens is tension between both of them with an apparent calm; in the second stage, the explosion, the woman can suffer insults or blows from her partner and subsequently, in the honey moon a reconciliation or forgiveness happens and the person who went violent shows affectionate conducts, gives presents or just treats the assaulted person right, the latter gets caught in the relationship and with that is vulnerable to keep being the object of violence.
It is called the cycle of violence, she pointed out, since the stages are repeated indefinitely, each time with more ease and with a more violent tension stage; meanwhile, the other stages shorten and the violent incidents increase.
On the other hand, she elaborates, the family and friendship networks to which the victim goes to after suffering an aggression, get tired of giving solutions or advices since the assaulted person is caught by the honey moon stage and can’t manage to leave her aggressor. Then the victim starts to isolate and is left without her support system , which makes her even more vulnerable.
Hilda Mónica Hernández Váldez urged those who are victims of violence or a part of a support system of these women to channel them to specialized institutions, as the CONAVIM, where they can get adequate follow up from experts so they can stop being victims of violence.